If you knew a person who broke his promises to you as often as you break your promises to yourself, how would you view that person? Is he dependable and honest? Or is he full of empty words and failed commitments?
How long would you tolerate it?
Most people let themselves down more than they would ever allow someone else to. We love to give ourselves a free pass.
You must hold yourself to a higher standard than you hold anyone else to.
You control your own actions, and no one else’s. How can you expect others to do the work necessary to keep their promises to you, if you won’t even do the work necessary to keep your own promises?
Other people have their own lives to worry about. How can you demand more from them than you demand from yourself?
When other people break their promises to you, they’re teaching you something about themselves. They’re teaching you that their words are empty. That they don’t have follow-through. That you don’t really matter that much to them.
And when you break your promises to yourself, you’re teaching yourself the same thing.
I wish you all a happy new year. But 2018 is here now. It really is time to stop wishing for a happy new year, and start creating one. Some of you have made resolutions, some of you haven’t. In any case, we’ve all got work to do.
When the excitement wears off, when the work gets tough, and when you think about giving yourself a free pass for giving up, remember what you’re teaching yourself by your actions. Are you going to prove yourself steadfast and dependable? Or are you going to be fickle and inconsistent? What would you think about someone else if they quit on you now?
Stay committed. Prove to yourself that you’re the real deal. That you are who you say you are, and that you do what you say you’ll do.