From time to time, I’ll speak with men who have reached a discouraging point in their battle against some vice, like porn.
I’ve been at this same discouraging point myself at times.
It’s best described as, “feeling guilty for not feeling guilty.”
We fail. Over. And over. And over again.
At first, we feel guilt for our failures. And it is fitting that we do.
After all, we’ve betrayed God. Right in front of His face, no less.
We have—even if in secret—let down the people who look up to us.
We’ve failed our current or future spouses.
We sabotage ourselves, and slowly kill off the person we were created to be.
And so we feel guilt.
But, eventually, we grow numb. We get used to the sting of failure. And our feelings of guilt cease.
This can be alarming and discouraging. For some of us, guilt was a key driving force behind our efforts to change. What will we do without it?
The video below explains how to handle this situation, as well as the overall role of feelings (like guilt) in your life as a man.